I had a goal when I was in my late 20’s. I was going to retire when I was 35 years old. But no one believed that I could do it. I was supposed to do what everyone else was doing.
- Work hard
- Make money, putting a little bit away
- Travel a little, take some time at the lake, etc.
- Hang out with grandchildren
- Be happy
The sad part is that slowly I started to believe them all. I did really good at whatever job I had, earning “good money”, had children, and for the most part happy. Most of the jobs were skilled labor jobs or an occasional retail sales job.
Then I moved into the IT field. Bonuses if you did a really good job. Salary – not hourly was the mode of payment. But, as i would finally realize in 2011, all my goals were really other people’s goals (or company goals). I realized that I had been pursuing (successfully) other people’s goals. They were reaping the major benefits from my efforts. Dont’ get me wrong. They were not doing anything wrong. They were pursuing their goals and I willing signed up to help. In return, they paid me what the going rate was for my skill-set.
I had let my goal (most called “dream”) flicker and burn out. I believed what I was hearing, what everyone else I knew was doing, and let the fire go out. At least that is what I thought.
I had read books like “Think and Grow Rich” when I was younger. Their meaning had dimmed as life went on. Then in 2011 I read a posting by Grant Cardone called “The Cure for Laziness”. Something in the way he wrote struck a spark. I bought and read the “10X Rule” book by Grant. Then I started to read others (see Resources page). Some of the authors had also experienced what I had experienced, but had found a way to ignite the flame again. To nurture their smoldering coals back into flames. I streamed Grant Cardone’s “10X GrowthCon 2017” in March 2017. I realized that the last 3 – 4 years i was nurturing those coals of mine. I was training myself to be ready for when the fire started again.
I realized I was getting close to starting those flames. I think the hardest part is to know when the flames are about to go. At what point do you own your own goals and throw off ones owned by other people? When do you add more fuel to the fire to make the fire take off? You don’t want to put out the flame you are once again believing in. That is a hard question.
I now think that the smoldering flame never dies out unless you totally give up. When YOU accept someone else’s goals for your own, you acknowledge that these are now your goals even if you don’t consciously see that.
If you don’t accept someone else’s goals, then what you do is keep looking for ways to fuel that fire. You realize that the old ways of doing that may have changed. Look around you. If someone else is doing “it”, you sure can do it too.
The Internet has changed everything. It has become fuel for many people to build or ignite that fire inside them. To be a vehicle to move them closer to their goals. To share what they have learned. That helping other people can help you help yourself. To find others that have similar goals. Your voice is no longer the only voice!
That goal to “retire” at 35 is not totally gone. That goal nurtured, has become many larger goals. All of that can be achieved by opening my eyes, looking around, finding like minded people, and start building that fire.